How did you do last week on your task to get up when your alarm goes off? Personally, I didn’t do very well! With the cooler weather we’re seeing here in Denver, all I want to do is stay snuggled up to my husband a few minutes longer.
But, all we can do is try our best! Leave a comment on the post to let me know how you did!
This week, we’re going to work to nurture our relationship with our spouses.
The bond between you and other people—especially your spouse—is important to your well-being. Bonding with other people has been scientifically proven to lead to longer, happier lives. Whether you’re married or single, it’s imperative to make a connection with other humans in some way.
Why do you think solitary confinement is used in prisons as a severe form of punishment? We need other people!
Throughout history, humans relied on each other for survival. Take Native Americans, for example. For centuries, American Indian tribes have banished people as punishment for serious offenses. Being kicked out of a community has historically been one of the worst things that could happen to a person.
We all inherently know that without the company of others, we become hopelessly depressed. Without that important human bond, we can’t survive. And strengthening that bond is good for us in all aspects of our lives.
We can strengthen our bond with our spouse by nurturing our relationship, by doing something that shows your favorite person that you’re thinking of them and caring for them.
Imagine you’re sitting at a desk. A scientist shows you photographs of various people and tells you that their spouse is somewhere in all of the photos you’re looking at. She then asks you to guess which people are married to each other.
Could you guess who’s married to who?
Chances are, the answer would be yes! University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted this study in real life, and concluded that while photographs of newlyweds couldn’t easily be paired, photographs of couples who were married for longer time periods were matched effortlessly.
He found that most married couples that have been together for long periods of time start to look alike, because they recognize and identify with their spouse’s feelings. The empathy they feel for their spouse is a sign of the bond the two people have nurtured through the years.
This week, create a situation in which you can nurture the bond with your spouse. Make her favorite dinner. Take him on a surprise date. Leave a love note where she’ll find it later in the day.
Do something to strengthen that special bond between the two of you.